Wednesday, October 7, 2015

I'd like to turn this blog into something more positive. I am a 34-year old married woman of nine years to a man 12 years older. He's had seven jobs since we've been together and we have lived in four apartments in two different countries. He became a citizen to my home country and I immigrated to his country for a few years without citizenship. Just yesterday, I had a health scare and everyone asked me what my career was. It is crazy to think that being a homemaker is not a legitimate position. Even my parents remind me of my age and are trying to drill it in me to become an engineer and what not. I have anxiety about leaving my apartment at the moment, but I have to shop and do things. Everyone wants me to be somebody I am simply not. I did long studies in music because I loved it, performed and taught it for quite a long time too. No it's not a million a year but it is something. Things and relationships change when you get married, you have to adjust. My husband sometimes succombs to the pressure of outsiders asking me why I don't work...

Anyhow, health is important these days as well as having a healthy lifestyle. do what maes you happy and stay strong in the opposition.

Friday, October 2, 2015

Money isn't everything

I like to hang out with friends that are fun and kind. I don't choose my friends based on how much money they make, I find that shallow. Money isn't everything. Friendship, family, pets and love are better. And also great food.

Friday, September 25, 2015


I am childless and I have received vitriol from mothers, asking me why I don't have kids, guessing there is something wrong with me. But that is nothing compared to the vitriol I have received for being a housewife.

Ladies, what happened to kindness and compassion among women? Can't we help each other and accept different choices?

Sunday, September 6, 2015

Jealous working women

I'm asking you fellow homemakers if you've ever been spotted by working females? If so, how did you react to their words?

I've had it happen to me several times ever since I moved back to my home country. I come to female workers for services such as hairdressing and they spend the whole time insulting me. It really makes me want to stay home even more, but I can't have my hair down my legs. :)

I've had it happen for acupuncture and osteopathic treatments, and well any female I encounter really. It is a shame that we cannot accept each other for who we really are. I don't meddle in other people's finances or business. I don't ask people what they do and judge. But people are like that, especially women.

Wednesday, September 2, 2015

The same old question

I get asked that all the time, "do ya work?", sigh. Someone wrote it right:

Saturday, August 22, 2015

People hate marriage

Okay so no one cared about "what I do" before I had a wedding ring on my finger. Not one single soul cared. People are all up in arms for the fact that I choose to be a housewife despite having a rather large resume. Seriously? Why would anyone care about someone else's career choice? Is it too much to ask for a little respect? I brought money into my marriage from the sale of my piano and the closing of my bank account. Yes he's provided a lot more than that but it's a marriage, not two roommates together. The money I made as a single lady enabled me to visit him when we were dating as we were long distance and I had to buy plane and bus tickets.

So I think I figured it out: people do not like marriage and are jealous of nice, healthy ones like what we have.

Friday, August 21, 2015

New survey

Well what a nice article:

Sunday, August 16, 2015

I'm quite tired

The truth is I am quite tired of defending myself all the time. Against random people on the street, doctors, neighbors, care providers all asking me nosy questions about my life. I never do that to others yet I get it all the time, it is not fair and I am quite exhausted from it.

I had two surgeries under epidural done in my 20's and had to undergo physical therapy 7 times. I also had to undergo acupuncture and osteopathy treatments. I was hospitalized many times in my life for many months at a time.

I said yes to my husband, not anyone else to marry him. I moved quite a lot and have traveled around the world.

Growing up, I excelled in violin, piano and voice, on top of having good grades.

In the past few years, I have handled bill paying, grocery list shopping, appointment making, budgeting, cleaning and cooking. My husband for the most part loves having me at home even though he maybe has made 3 or 4 comments about it in the past, probably due to some pressure around him.

As a teen, I was a babysitter, made chores for money, played the violin and sang in churches, then I played the piano, taught it, sang in more settings and had a few jobs such as rotisserie lady, waitress, cashier, receptionist, produce seller and store clerk. I then taught voice and piano again.

So it is not nothing. When I first got married, I could not legally work as I had moved countries. I was also in poor health. I managed my husband's income and we then saved a ton of money for us to make the other cross country move we made.

So nobody has walked into my shoes. Nobody should judge me or my husband for our personal life decisions, period. I don't do it to others so I don't deserve it back.

When your family members all shun you and your friends disappear, it is hard to keep a happy face sometimes. That is why I write this blog. I am glad it resonates with you all.

Friday, August 14, 2015

Finding the courage to work as a homemaker

This is an excellent article. It made me feel good reading it:

Sunday, August 9, 2015

Young women yearn to stay home

Many women today realize that we can't have it all: