Saturday, August 22, 2015

People hate marriage

Okay so no one cared about "what I do" before I had a wedding ring on my finger. Not one single soul cared. People are all up in arms for the fact that I choose to be a housewife despite having a rather large resume. Seriously? Why would anyone care about someone else's career choice? Is it too much to ask for a little respect? I brought money into my marriage from the sale of my piano and the closing of my bank account. Yes he's provided a lot more than that but it's a marriage, not two roommates together. The money I made as a single lady enabled me to visit him when we were dating as we were long distance and I had to buy plane and bus tickets.

So I think I figured it out: people do not like marriage and are jealous of nice, healthy ones like what we have.

Friday, August 21, 2015

New survey

Well what a nice article:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3161033/Survey-shows-men-happier-wives-not-work.html

Sunday, August 16, 2015

I'm quite tired

The truth is I am quite tired of defending myself all the time. Against random people on the street, doctors, neighbors, care providers all asking me nosy questions about my life. I never do that to others yet I get it all the time, it is not fair and I am quite exhausted from it.

I had two surgeries under epidural done in my 20's and had to undergo physical therapy 7 times. I also had to undergo acupuncture and osteopathy treatments. I was hospitalized many times in my life for many months at a time.

I said yes to my husband, not anyone else to marry him. I moved quite a lot and have traveled around the world.

Growing up, I excelled in violin, piano and voice, on top of having good grades.

In the past few years, I have handled bill paying, grocery list shopping, appointment making, budgeting, cleaning and cooking. My husband for the most part loves having me at home even though he maybe has made 3 or 4 comments about it in the past, probably due to some pressure around him.

As a teen, I was a babysitter, made chores for money, played the violin and sang in churches, then I played the piano, taught it, sang in more settings and had a few jobs such as rotisserie lady, waitress, cashier, receptionist, produce seller and store clerk. I then taught voice and piano again.

So it is not nothing. When I first got married, I could not legally work as I had moved countries. I was also in poor health. I managed my husband's income and we then saved a ton of money for us to make the other cross country move we made.

So nobody has walked into my shoes. Nobody should judge me or my husband for our personal life decisions, period. I don't do it to others so I don't deserve it back.

When your family members all shun you and your friends disappear, it is hard to keep a happy face sometimes. That is why I write this blog. I am glad it resonates with you all.

Friday, August 14, 2015

Finding the courage to work as a homemaker

This is an excellent article. It made me feel good reading it:

http://rainsanmartin.hubpages.com/hub/Finding-the-Courage-to-Be-a-Homemaker-Even-Without-Kids

Sunday, August 9, 2015

Young women yearn to stay home

Many women today realize that we can't have it all:

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/this-britain/desperate-to-be-housewives-young-women-yearn-for-1950s-role-as-stayathome-mums-527857.html

Thursday, August 6, 2015

Thanks for your comments

Ladies, thank you all for your sweet comments. I realize I may have sounded a bit whiny lately on here, but I like to write to let my feelings out.

It's hard to live and be treated the way I am treated. I have so much to offer and I have a rich past of classical music and mundane jobs I want to erase from my memory...I have moved several times to encourage hubby in his career. If I hadn't married him, I would perhaps still be living at my parents house or rent a small apartment nearby, who knows. Life is full of mysteries!

I am not taking anyone's job by staying home, nor am I hurting anyone.

Tuesday, August 4, 2015

For the last time, I work

If I hear another comment about my employment status, I swear I will punch somebody! I was a babysitter as a teen, then I worked from 17-24, then 31-33. That is more than my homemaker mom and MIL, yet no one bothers them like me.

When I moved to be with hubby, I did not have the legal right to work for quite some time, plus he made a lot of money for both of us. We then moved a few times and I held two part time jobs while he was looking for work.

If I explain all this to my doctors, they still dismiss me. I live my own life the way I want, and I married who I wanted to marry. Feminism is such poison, it has invaded the minds of everyone these days...

Thursday, July 30, 2015

The push to put all women in the same box

Parents nowadays send their kids to public school to be indoctrinated with socialism, among other things. Kids obey their parents and do whatever is required of them.

What's worst is that women's accomplishments are never enough for some people. They want all women in the workforce, paying taxes, whether they are married or not. The women who are homemakers are considered outcasts and objects of ridicule.

As a homemaker, I went from preschool to university, and held a whopping 18 jobs. Did I mention I also sang with orchestra? I consider myself quite accomplished yet I get insulted wherever I go, go figure.

I am my own person and I do whatever I want. No one should harass another person and force her into something she does not desire for herself.

Thursday, July 23, 2015

Life after school

If you're like me, you probably didn't like your school experience. I suffered from bullying and endlessly changing schools for different reasons. I was taught to be like a boy and have a big career. In high school when I talked about going maybe into a nutrition program, the school councelor said only science was viable. When I switched to music, my father was upset.

There's more to life than school. That music program enabled me to teach and make a little money out of it. It is also how I met my husband, so I have no regrets.

I am more than done with school. I am happy at home, enjoying life with my husband and two male cats.

Monday, July 13, 2015

Rambling

Well I hope you homemakers out there enjoy my blog, I sure enjoy writing it.

We must have thick skin in order to fight against society's prejudices. Don't listen to others who want you to work in factories or other ungodly settings: we are our homes' heart and soul and we support our husbands in their endeavours. What happens in a marriage is between the married people, it is none of other people's business.

I get maybe 50 times a week I am not kidding nosy people asking me where I work. Ladies, I am exhausted. I read other homemaking blogs and they encourage me in my calling.

God did not create women and men the same way. Again, I had jobs but they were very demeaning. I prefer to stay home.