Saturday, November 28, 2015

Happy thanksgiving weekend

We didn't see family this year so we just celebrated with chicken breasts stuffed with cranberry stuffing.

I hope you had a good one!

Saturday, November 21, 2015

Homemaking is artistic

I am an artist. Always been, always will be. When I quit my job as a receptionist to become a piano teacher, my bosses said I was too much of an artist anyway.

I hope to make it big as an opera singer someday. That is my dream.

Being a helpmeet to your husband

My husband's apartment needed to be cleaned when I moved in with him. I helped him organized his life as well by taking care of appointments and all. We love to cook, not so much clean though, but we love to discover new recipes and wines to match. And good music too! This is our fourth apartment in 4 different towns and 2 different countries.

I hope to go back on stage one day. I was a soprano and now I am a mezzo-soprano. We don't know when we'll take our next trip. I miss New York City, it's such a fun city for the arts.

Wednesday, November 18, 2015

Singing for the soul

I grew up playing various instruments until I decided to take classical voice lessons and join a choir. Years later I was accepted in two schools for singing and did the opera chorus. I did various concerts throughout my province and even took voice lessons in Manhattan.

I have not performed in a while due to health issues...I'd like to though! I did various concerts with piano and then one with orchestra that I am most proud of. I did lots of exams and concerts in school but I quit and did not obtain my bachelor degree due to not liking my last teacher, so I went back privately while teaching piano at home and was trained to do my big concert.

My heart thought big, that I would sing at the Met. Many people thought I could, but life turned out differently and now I live far away from New York. Someone even thought I could sing at La Scala!

Tuesday, November 17, 2015


Life is hard right now for us. People want us to buy a second car so I work. They want us to buy a house too and tell us it won't be doable on one income. They say I have no obligations and recommend all sorts of going back to school schemes and jobs. They want me to have children because I am a woman.

I realize now that I may go to them for advice but I don't have to take it. Or I may just hear it from them often times.

I need to be kinder to myself. I am pretty hard on me and then when I get criticized or insulted I kind of crash.

These are often professionals that I pay for services that are harsh on me it is a bit painful.

On the other hand, the beauty if being a woman is choices: to be home or not, to start a family or not, choosings friends and husband etc.

There are choices in life. Don't let controlling people decide your fate.

Friday, November 13, 2015

Some unexpected criticism

-I made the decision to get married and spend the rest of my life with my husband. It is my decision to be a housewife as of now. I do not define myself by any title however. I have worked and gone to school even university for a long time but happened to meet hubby as friends first than dating and marrying.
-People's perception of me is a direct reflection of their own lives. They think I have a problem for not wanting to make a lot of money. It is none of their business.
-Yes I get anxious about leaving home because of rude people who always comment on my employment status.
-My mom and my MIL tell me to go to work but they have been home for over 50 years each, making them highly hypocritical
-People also ask me why I am not a mom. I don't want kids. I have gone through major surgeries and rehab, plus hospitals in my life. I don't think I want kids because I know anyone who is born is going to die and I couldn't deal with that.

I vent here because I love to write and want to connect with fellow people. I have been living outside my parents' home for 10 years now. What I do in my daily life is my own business. I have travelled quite a bit in my life going to Europe and Asia, plus across North America. I hate dealing with bosses and colleagues they drive me nuts. I prefer being an artist, an opera singer and musician who has performed and taught it to many grateful students over the years.

A simple married life

Thank you for your comments, they make me think about my life and I appreciate them. I hope I don't come accross too much like a victim in my posts, like I said in a previous post I'd like to keep things more positive...

I used to live in New York where no one gave a care what I do for a living, but now I live in a very liberal area that really seems to hate housewives. I was of course not always one, being a student for many years (3-22 of age).

I am generally accepting of other people's lifestyles and I expect the same in return.

Okay here is what I enjoy about being home:

-Sleeping in whenever I want
-Cooking a lot, grocery shopping
-Paying bills and budgeting
-Internet, tv and phone
-Researching new recipes from books, internet and tv
-Going out to eat, to the movies, to the opera, to the mall, cideries and wineries, the city
-Not having to answer to a boss and annoying colleagues (I have in the past meh)
-Dressing as I please, shopping for clothes
-Reading, writing
-Spending time around hubby's schedule
-Traveling for hubby's job interviews and to see his family and other cities
-Resting duringthat lady's time ofthe month
-Singing at home, playing the piano, taking in students from time to time
-Seeing friends and family
-Having time for dentists and doctors

Tuesday, November 10, 2015

No I don't work...

The number of people asking me if I work has been pretty high over the years...I enjoy staying home, why is it so hard for strangers to understand that? I am so frustrated...

Friday, October 30, 2015

The right to stay home

Just because I am childless it doesn't mean I don't have the right to stay home. You should hear those people talk to me like I am worthless without a job or career. The mean people often reflect their own self worth on others, so I don't take it personally.

What I do all day is no one's business but mine and my husband, period. If the people jump up and down because I am a homemaker it is their problem.

Tuesday, October 27, 2015

Wearing dresses and skirts

I just had to throw out my latest black pants due to a big rip. I had a phase in my life when I wore lots of skirts and dresses. My mother was happy! Now it's been mostly jeans, black pants and nice tops...I gained weight a while back which I haven't lost yet, but I still would like to wear dresses again.